Whether it’s busy schedules or childcare responsibilities, it can be difficult to maintain a healthy sex life amidst the hustle and bustle of modern life. Particularly for those in long-term relationships and marriages, the desire isn’t always there and it can be frustrating at the best of times. It’s perfectly normal to see libido and desire shift as we try to manage daily stress, but longer periods can pose a real challenge to the solidity of a relationship. Finding desire and maintaining that spark are what keep couples together so it can feel hopeless when that urge isn’t there anymore.
There are many factors that can affect a person's libido, including age, hormonal fluctuations, physical health, and emotional state. For example, as people age, their sex drive may decrease due to changes in hormone levels and physical health issues. Similarly, individuals who are experiencing emotional distress or depression may also see a decrease in their libido.
Overall, libido is an important aspect of human sexuality that can have a significant impact on a person's physical and emotional well-being.
Here are some natural ways to boost your libido and bring some zest back into your life:
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Focus on the ones you like and see how many you can fit into a meal! Or eat some of them every day for a week and notice if your body feels any different as a result. In general, eating a diet that is high in vegetables, low in sugar, and high in lean proteins can help prevent disorders that affect libido, like metabolic syndrome, cardiovascular disease and Polycystic ovarian syndrome.
Smoking cigarettes can have a negative impact on a person’s cardiovascular system. Good heart health is important for good sexual functioning.
People who smoke cigarettes may find that their energy levels and sex drive increase after stopping.
The way you feel about yourself affects the way you feel about sex. If you lack confidence in yourself and your ability to connect with another person you are likely to find it hard to truly relax and enjoy a sexual experience. You might find yourself focused too much on trying to please the other person, or worrying about how you look or sound during sex. Being 'in your head' instead of in your body means you miss out on the full experience and are unlikely to fully enjoy it or want to repeat it too often. Notice if this is true for you, and work on improving your self confidence and your ability to connect with another person without abandoning yourself.
Drinking one glass of wine can relax you and increase your libido. However, having two glasses or more can reduce your ability to perform by affecting erectile function.
Too much alcohol can also inhibit your ability to orgasm.
Good sleep can improve a person’s overall mood and energy levels, and some research also links sleep quality to libido.
A small-scale 2015 study of women suggested that getting more sleep the night before increased their sexual desire the next day. Women who reported longer average sleep times reported better genital arousal than those with shorter sleep times.
People who balance work with caring for others, such as aging parents or young children, are often left exhausted, which can lead to a reduced sex drive.
Boost your energy and sex drive by prioritizing good sleep hygiene.
6. Prioritize stress relief
Unsurprisingly, stress can have a huge impact on libido, for both men and women. Some research suggests that women are more susceptible to a lowered libido due to stress, while men may actually use sex to relieve their stress. In a couple already struggling, it's easy to see how this might cause further conflict. Finding ways to reduce stress levels is therefore incredibly important in seeing a positive outcome in libido.
The power of the mind
The brain is a powerful organ, and although hormones play a huge role in sexual desire, it is our thoughts that shape how strong our desire can be. It’s not impossible to get your libido back so not all hope is lost if a lot of time has passed. By opening up to hypnotism, you can reprogram your thoughts and reconnect with your partner sooner than you think. Libido can often be a taboo subject that many would rather ignore than address, but it’s important not to let your issues go unresolved.
Hypnotherapy reveals the subconscious mind and opens it up to suggestion. It also helps to release stress and reveal one’s own true feelings. Therapy can help build desire for one another and open up opportunities to reconnect and rediscover the relationship.
As you have seen, there are many targeted hypnotherapy sessions from Clear Minds that can help you address one or more of the potential causes of loss of libido. You can start with one of those, or jump straight to the Increase Libido Hypnotherapy Session to experience the change you're looking for immediately.
Whether you do this as a couple or alone, our therapy session aims to bring you to a peaceful state where you can let go of your stress and become more open to suggestions. The therapy will be making calm suggestions and will change your own way of subconscious thinking to produce positive changes.
By speaking to your subconscious mind, you will be more receptive to change and more likely to to see results. Hypnotism is an incredibly effective way at achieving results that don’t need to rely on medicinal intervention.
Despite the common misconceptions around hypnotherapy, you are always in control and will never be forced to something that makes you feel uncomfortable.
Although there may be underlying medical reasons for having low libido, hypnotherapy can form a valued part of the overall treatment. It is often the fear or anticipation of something going wrong that prevents many from undertaking sexual activity. This in itself is what kills libido, but therapy can help change this. Hypnotherapy can stop those negative thoughts, disrupt poor behavioural patterns and incorporate feelings of pleasure so that you no longer associate your desire with any negative feelings. For this to work, you must be determined to see results. Hypnotherapy is a viable option for those who feel they need to increase their libido and improve their sexual relationship with their partner.